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As soon as I read about the breakup, I stopped listening to MCR. Completely. It was too painful, I didn't want to face the facts. It's been a long while. But a couple of days ago, a friend of mine randomly played Ghost in the and i found myself crying and singing along. And now all I do is watching old clips, listening to their music, thanking them in my own way. But I still can't accept they're gone. Over. No more. This has brought me so far down the past couple of days. What can I do? I guess I just need someone in the same boat to talk to. This is actually the first time I sign back in here  since before the band broke up. Somebody talk to me! Tell me I'll be fine! Tell me you are all still out there, that the MCRmy still exists and that I am not alone. 

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I can help you with the last one! The MCRmy is still here. We are not as many as we used to be in the glory days, but we have become a pretty close-knitted community. And you are very welcome to be a part of it. And Im not sure if you remember me, but I remember you from the early days of the board.

You will be fine. An era is over, but the spirit of MCR is not gone. They live on in the music, in our hearts and in the friendships we have made, and are still making because of them. I think we've all been there. Crying our hearts out because MCR split up. But we can move on from that. We can still appreciate the music, we can cherish the memories, and we can move on together.

And also, if you feel like you need to talk to someone who understands in Norwegian, I'm here :)

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Hi! I don't remember you from back in the day, but welcome back. :) 

 

I found the process of 'getting over' MCR was a lot like grieving - so it's completely okay to cry and throw things, eventually you'll feel better again. Or not as sad, anyway.

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Thank you guys. I just don't know what to do. This literally just suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks. I thought I was okay with it, but it really IS hard. Especially now that I'm going through a rough patch, I've been feeling the need to have them here again. And I know I'm sooo late with this. I just haven't had the will to process it yet. I still can't really. I just know there's something missing, but I'm not able to accept it. I can't face the facts. 

 

Edit: I actually had tickets to see Gerard live when he came to Norway, but I skipped it. Seeing him on stage with another band would have killed me. However, my friend went to see the show and she got to meet him as well. So I regret not going, but I don't regret not seeing the show. 

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It's completely normal that the grief suddenly hits you. But really, everything they made is still there. Although I feel really sad that there won't be anything new. But it's not like everything that was disappeared with them, they left it behind for you. And we are still here. And we're here for each other whenever needed. Really. The MCRmy didn't split up. We stay together, stronger than ever.

I were also thinking about going to that show, but never got the tickets. I can't really relate to Gerard's new stuff, and when no one wanted to go with me, and the timing was bad, it just didn't mean as much to me as the MCR a show back in 2011. I understand why you regret the chance to meet him though. Meeting him would've been amazing.

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I'm really into the new stuff, but I tried not to feel obligated to feel a certain way before I listened to it... like I tried to not equate it with MCR too much, and listen as though I was finding a whole new act. I think it helped. :)

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I know how you're feeling. I couldn't believe it and it took me about a year to accept the fact that they're not here anymore. But the music stays and this community is stronger than ever, MCRmy is not going anywhere. Gerard had a show here on february and i went there, i love his new music but it broke me when the rest of mcr didn't follow him on to the stage. And I felt a lot like crying when before the show there was hundereds of people waiting outside and most of them started singing welcome to the black parade and famous last words along with gerard new songs. To be honest I didn't expect there to be so many people because even some of the people that I know stopped listening to MCR when they broke up, saying they don't like them anymore, they're not fans. I was so happy there is still so many of us. Judging by how full the club was i think it was nearly sold out show.

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I can't wait for Gerard to come back here. He'd better! I'm sure seeing him live would be better than just the album...well that's maybe just me, cuz I never got to actually see MCR, although there are the videos to which I'm sooo grateful! Anyway, yeah the record sounded a bit sad in that the others weren't there...like u can hear it...but what a fantastic frontman! His concerts should just be the best!

I think he's getting a bit of a new following mixed in with the Rmy folks right? Since his new music is so different from MCR, he's attracted others.

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He was very good. He performed like he did in MCR tho joked around a lot more and seemed more relaxed than when I saw MCR in 2011. People threw socks to the stage for him and he had to keep dodging them  :D

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What a relief! I could tell he was looking more drained towards the end of MCR touring. I'm glad to hear he's giving a great show, cuz I may actually get to go...next year? I mean I really want to go. Hope he continues!

Anyway, what's up with the sock thing..ohhh cuz he wears funky socks to shows? When I first read this I was like, "socks? How rude!" ?..like gifts u mean? Lol idk.

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MCRmy is still here.

 

I became a fan just last year so I never got the chance to go to a concert. I feel like I missed so many things. It hurts discovering all this, the music and the band itself, and realizing I'll never see them together, or hear my favourite songs live, or hear news about them. It's like I'm living their break up right now. But there are a lot of fans like me.

 

Some may have left after the breakup, but there are so many that are still arriving, and maybe returning. So no, the mcrmy is not extinguished, I'd say it's recovering, if anything.

 

It is still here for everyone who needs it.

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MCRmy is still here.

 

I became a fan just last year so I never got the chance to go to a concert. I feel like I missed so many things. It hurts discovering all this, the music and the band itself, and realizing I'll never see them together, or hear my favourite songs live, or hear news about them. It's like I'm living their break up right now. But there are a lot of fans like me.

 

Some may have left after the breakup, but there are so many that are still arriving, and maybe returning. So no, the mcrmy is not extinguished, I'd say it's recovering, if anything.

 

It is still here for everyone who needs it.

Yes, I agree! I also didn't start listening to them until after the breakup, so I also sometimes feel like the breakup is fresh again when I realize I will never see them live. The MCRmy will never be extinguished as long. As long as their music is still available, people will be discovering them and they will continue to save even more lives. I know for me personally, even though I joined late, they still help me a lot through my periods of existential depression because they remind me that the point to life (in my opinion) is shining bright and helping/inspiring others :) And remember, "You may be gone, but out here in the desert, your shadow lives on without you."

 

G <3

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Yes, I agree! I also didn't start listening to them until after the breakup, so I also sometimes feel like the breakup is fresh again when I realize I will never see them live. The MCRmy will never be extinguished as long. As long as their music is still available, people will be discovering them and they will continue to save even more lives. I know for me personally, even though I joined late, they still help me a lot through my periods of existential depression because they remind me that the point to life (in my opinion) is shining bright and helping/inspiring others :) And remember, "You may be gone, but out here in the desert, your shadow lives on without you."

 

G <3

Totally. MCRmy will live as long as we keep listening to the music, getting inspired and inspiring others. That's MCR's legacy.

By the way, where's that quote from? I think I've heard it but I'm not sure. It is beautiful.

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Totally. MCRmy will live as long as we keep listening to the music, getting inspired and inspiring others. That's MCR's legacy.

By the way, where's that quote from? I think I've heard it but I'm not sure. It is beautiful.

Goodnite Dr. Death :)

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I have mixed feelings about the breakup, but in my mind, I know they must've done it for a reason and I respect that...it's still regrettable that I never got to see them...I guess "you're not in this alone" is what I am realizing though... 

I can help you with the last one! The MCRmy is still here. We are not as many as we used to be in the glory days, but we have become a pretty close-knitted community. And you are very welcome to be a part of it. And Im not sure if you remember me, but I remember you from the early days of the board.
You will be fine. An era is over, but the spirit of MCR is not gone. They live on in the music, in our hearts and in the friendships we have made, and are still making because of them. I think we've all been there. Crying our hearts out because MCR split up. But we can move on from that. We can still appreciate the music, we can cherish the memories, and we can move on together.
And also, if you feel like you need to talk to someone who understands in Norwegian, I'm here :)

This was very nice to hear. the community thing, the era not being over...I wish I had some fellow MCR fans around here but...this is part of why I came to this site!

Norwegian??!!! I just watched some show about Norway! (obvious or not, I'm not from Norway...but I'm interested in cultural things)

 

As soon as I read about the breakup, I stopped listening to MCR. Completely. It was too painful, I didn't want to face the facts. It's been a long while. But a couple of days ago, a friend of mine randomly played Ghost in the and i found myself crying and singing along. And now all I do is watching old clips, listening to their music, thanking them in my own way. But I still can't accept they're gone. Over. No more. This has brought me so far down the past couple of days. What can I do? I guess I just need someone in the same boat to talk to. This is actually the first time I sign back in here  since before the band broke up. Somebody talk to me! Tell me I'll be fine! Tell me you are all still out there, that the MCRmy still exists and that I am not alone. 

So yeah, we are still here! I've been sortof through the grieving process too...not soo much crying (to be honest though, I avoided "the Kids from yesterday" for the longest time. I can't imagine seeing this in concert...if I ever went). But again, definitely not alone.

 

I can't wait for Gerard to come back here. He'd better! I'm sure seeing him live would be better than just the album...well that's maybe just me, cuz I never got to actually see MCR, although there are the videos to which I'm sooo grateful! Anyway, yeah the record sounded a bit sad in that the others weren't there...like u can hear it...but what a fantastic frontman! His concerts should just be the best!

I think he's getting a bit of a new following mixed in with the Rmy folks right? Since his new music is so different from MCR, he's attracted others.

 

I am just waiting to hear the news of the next tour coming here as well! And first of course, the new album. Wasn't huge on HA, but it was still good and I'd still love to meet him/see him. I really like Frank's stuff to be honest. Insane how I got to see him and go to his show!!

 

He was very good. He performed like he did in MCR tho joked around a lot more and seemed more relaxed than when I saw MCR in 2011. People threw socks to the stage for him and he had to keep dodging them  :D

That's a relief! Was happy when I heard that they are all still friends and that they still have that spunk in them! :D

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